{"id":14055,"date":"2025-06-21T11:31:33","date_gmt":"2025-06-21T03:31:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stephenleng.com\/cn\/?p=14055"},"modified":"2025-11-09T22:02:16","modified_gmt":"2025-11-09T14:02:16","slug":"is-romantic-love-essentially-narcissism-self-love-or-a-projection-of-the-ideal-self-a-critique-of-anti-romantic-discourse-in-the-chinese-internet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stephenleng.com\/cn\/is-romantic-love-essentially-narcissism-self-love-or-a-projection-of-the-ideal-self-a-critique-of-anti-romantic-discourse-in-the-chinese-internet\/","title":{"rendered":"\u6d6a\u6f2b\u7231\u60c5\u7684\u672c\u8d28\u662f\u81ea\u604b\u6216\u81ea\u7231\u6216\u81ea\u6211\u7406\u60f3\u7684\u6295\u5c04\uff1f\u8bc4\u4e2d\u6587\u4e92\u8054\u7f51\u4e2d\u7684\u53cd\u6d6a\u6f2b\u8bdd\u8bed"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">\u5728\u676d\u5dde\u5e02\u897f\u6e56\u533a\u5a5a\u59fb\u767b\u8bb0\u5904\uff0c\u6709\u4e00\u4e2a\u6709\u7740\u5eb8\u4fd7\u5ba1\u7f8e\u7684\u5efa\u7b51\uff0c\u5b83\u53eb\u505a\u201c\u751c\u871c\u53f7\u201d\u3002\u201c\u751c\u871c\u53f7\u201d\u4e0a\u7528\u82f1\u6587\u6807\u6ce8\u7740\u8fd9\u6837\u4e00\u53e5\u8bdd\uff1a<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote has-medium-font-size is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>I love you not for who you are, but for who i am before you<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">\u76f4\u8bd1\u8fc7\u6765\u5c31\u662f\uff1a<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">\u6211\u7231\u4f60\u4e0d\u662f\u56e0\u4e3a\u4f60\u662f\u8c01\uff0c\u800c\u662f\u56e0\u4e3a\u5728\u4f60\u9762\u524d\u6211\u662f\u8c01<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">\u663e\u7136\uff0c\u6c11\u653f\u5c40\u7684\u5de5\u4f5c\u4eba\u5458\u81ea\u5df1\u6ca1\u6709\u80fd\u529b\u5199\u51fa\u8fd9\u6837\u7684\u53e5\u5b50\uff0c\u6240\u4ee5\u5b83\u5e94\u8be5\u6709\u4e00\u4e2a\u51fa\u5904\u3002\u6839\u636e\u6211\u7684\u68c0\u7d22\uff0c\u5b83\u5e94\u8be5\u6765\u81ea\u4f0a\u4e3d\u838e\u767d\u00b7\u5df4\u96f7\u7279\u00b7\u52c3\u6717\u5b81\uff08Elizabeth Barrett Browning\uff09\uff0c\u4e00\u4f4d19\u4e16\u7eaa\u7684\u82f1\u56fd\u8bd7\u4eba\u3002\u4ee5\u4e0b\u662f\u6bd4\u8f83\u5b8c\u6574\u7684\u6765\u81ea\u52c3\u6717\u5b81\u7684\u539f\u6587\uff1a<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">I love you <strong>not only for<\/strong> what you are, <strong>but for<\/strong> what I am when I am with you. 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